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By tokyobutterfly, Sep 24 2017 04:14PM

Mel Gordon’s reputation as the preeminent scholar of early 20th-century sex culture was established with Feral House’s publication of his landmark 2000 tomeVoluptuous Panic: The Erotic World of Weimar Berlin. That book has remained in print for fifteen years, seeing multiple revisions and expansions as well as a companion piece, 2006’s The Seven Addictions and Five Professions of Anita Berber, further exploring Berlin’s vintage nightlife via a biography of the notorious nude dancer. 2015 finds Feral House issuing the long-anticipated release of Voluptuous Panic’s sister volume in the form of Horizontal Collaboration: The Erotic World of Paris 1920 – 1946—a book that brims with titillating pleasures like an overfilled coupe of champagne.

The history of demimonde culture is largely an oral and ephemeral one, making Gordon’s undertaking in Horizontal Collaboration a more monumental one than it might seem at first glance. Relying on vintage guidebooks, photographs, pulp magazine articles, and personal diaries, Gordon weaves disparate scraps of material into a comprehensive narrative that reveals hidden aspects of Parisian culture. Though it’s tempting to imagine “European cabaret culture” as something monolithic, the book takes a great deal of care to differentiate the conditions under which Parisian sex culture developed from the ones that led to the unique character of Weimar Berlin’s sexual underground. France’s tolerant attitudes towards prostitution, sexual satire, and prolific heterosexual coupling created a far bubblier, celebratory atmosphere than the doom-haunted, paraphilic world of Berlin’s sex culture during the twenties and thirties. The imagery in the book underscores this luminous sexuality. In fact, Horizontal Collaboration may be 2015’s leggiest publication: scores of well-turned gams adorn its pages, topped by beckoning bosoms and flashing smiles. It’s a visual tribute to Jazz-Age beauty of the most inviting variety.

Nowhere is Gordon’s thorough research and contextualization displayed more vividly than in the chapter on gay and lesbian nightlife. The brief flowering of interwar gay nightlife in Paris left behind little concrete evidence and no cohesive narrative. Strong legal and cultural taboos against gay sex plus a relative absence of gay counter- cultural social links meant Gordon dug through police blotters, memoirs, and rare photographic documentation to create a the first full picture of the history of gay Paris. The resulting text illuminates the lives of otherwise anonymous faces. One especially vivid example is found in the person of a butch lesbian dubbed “Fat Claude” in a Brassaï snapshot. She is identified as Violette Morris, a gifted woman athlete who would ultimately cast her lot with the Nazis, working as a spy with the SS and revealing French state secrets. Her collaborationist activities would escalate to the torture of female Resistance members until she met her end in a hail of commando gunfire in 1944.



All of this leads up to Horizontal Collaboration’s provocative heart and the source of its title: a chapter detailing sex culture during the Nazi occupation of Paris between 1940 and 1944. Rather than characterize the occupying forces as rapist Huns (as was the fashion in the Allied mass media), the book offers evidence that Paris’ status as a beyond-the-borders playground for the German military resulted in economic well- being and open-minded treatment for a majority of participants in the Parisian sex industry. First-person accounts of the time are quoted in which it’s revealed that jazz, though banned in Germany, was permitted on Parisian stages, and Nazi officers and soldiers are characterized as model clients by the prostitutes who serviced them. This combination of tolerance for performed exotica and an attitude of courtesy towards sex workers belied the genocidal purges and Gestapo tortures taking place beneath the city’s glittering surface. A thirst for vengeance in the aftermath of the war led to theatrical public abuse of women who slept with Nazis, and would result in a new puritanism that forever altered the landscape of erotic life in Paris.



Beyond simply cataloging a period in time, Gordon’s approachable, witty prose brings the naughtiness of vintage Paris to life. The author approaches his material with refreshing directness and affection, allowing the facts he presents to exist without the stain of contemporary politics creeping into frame. There’s a humor to Gordon’s phrasing that complements the avalanche of risque imagery. On the nude revues at Les Folies Bergère:

“U.S. Army guidebooks in 1946 maintained that more than sixty million spectators had been “fleeced” ... since the Armistice. (There was no need to know French in order to follow the vapid stage dialogue. In fact, linguistic ignorance was thought to be a singular advantage.)”

In passages such as these, Gordon presents fact and flavor side-by-side, entertaining as he educates.






In terms of presentation, the book makes a lovely shelf-mate to Voluptuous Panic. Saturated, full-color imagery and glossy stock mean that Horizontal Collaboration begs to be picked up and experienced. The hundreds of rare photographs and illustrations could easily overwhelm the text, but the combination of Gordon’s skillful writing alongside intelligent layout choices ensure readability and flow of information. That having been said, the experience of reading Horizontal Collaboration evokes the sensory overload of Parisian nightlife: one’s eyes are spoiled for sensual choice no matter where they land.

In an environment where provocative imagery is increasingly detached from historical context on image-sharing sites and social media, Gordon’s painstaking work in tracking down and cataloging the stories behind the bounty of images included in Horizontal Collaboration is to be celebrated. A passion project by any definition, Horizontal Collaboration is the rare book that is both a scholarly achievement and a steamy delight.





By tokyobutterfly, Jun 1 2017 01:45PM

Sex , sex sex , sex and sex ! Yes Please! Sex is really what makes the world go around. It's by far one of the most important and influential forces in our lives. We fight for it, die for it and pine for it. It’s in the very essence of our existence. We could live without it but really shouldn't so why not just embrace it and enjoy the proverbial ride. We are dedicating this issue of our newsletter to the Greek goddess of sex and desire Eros. So without further adieu let the lessons begin!


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A Sexy Hot New Role Play

~ The Dressing Room ~




As you may all know we love lingerie and we also love to show you what we are wearing underneath our dresses. This role play will begin with a lunch or dinner date in Omotesando, Tokyo. This is very important as the building up of anticipation of things to come needs a little flirting and bonding over a light meal. We will then take a 10 minute leisurely stroll down the street to our favorite lingerie boutique “LA PERLA” (http://www.laperla.com/jp/) The Tokyo LA PERLA boutique is the biggest and most beautiful in all of Asia. The shop carries some of the most sexy exquisite lingerie on the planet.


Now the fun begins, you will be able to hand pick exactly what you would like us to wear because in mere minutes you will be seated in a private sitting room with a beverage of your choice as your beautiful butterfly begins a private viewing of the lingerie you have just selected. The emphasis is on private as we will not be disturbed while making our selection. If you find something you would like us to wear (please feel to purchase anything you like) we are happy to change and wear your beautiful selection back to the hotel for a more intimate viewing of the days purchase. If you are feeling exceptionally sexually charged, just around the corner from LA PERLA is one the most artistic Christian Louboutin boutiques in Tokyo. There is nothing more sexy than a woman in sexy LA PERLA lingerie and Christian Louboutin high heels especially when you bend the whole ensemble over your hotel writing desk.


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Ménage À Trois - Maximizing your play time 


Six Best Threesome Sex Positions

Memorize These Six Threesome Positions Now (Thank Us Later)


If you’re lucky enough to be a guy who managed to score a lady who’s up for a threesome, or if you enjoy adding another player to the bedroom from time to time, your threesome vocabulary may already be developed. But here’s an important fact to know: When it comes to getting the most out of all of those body parts (and let’s be real, the undeniable hotness that comes with multiples), you have to know how it works for her, just as much as it works for you.

So before you partner up or invite another woman into your playtime, educate yourself with some of the best threesome sex positions, along with how to make it steamier for you — and for her.


1. 1. The Daisy Chain



What it is: You’re doing one woman doggy-style while she’s going down on the other woman. The women switching places during this position can make it even hotter, or you can explore double penetration if you swap out the extra woman for another guy.

Why it’s hot for you: “During this position, men can control the depth and the speed of penetration, for both vaginal and oral. “In this position, men love how visually stimulating rear entry is, along with watching a woman perform oral sex on another woman.”

Why it’s hot for her: If you’re exploring double penetration, women can experience their G-spot being stimulated, which can make for a pretty killer orgasm. “This means she has the chance to have an entirely different orgasm that’s often more intense than clitoral or vaginal orgasms.”


1. 2. Bobbing For Apples




What it is: You’re lying down, one woman is giving you a blow job and the other is sitting on your face while you perform oral sex on her.

Why it’s hot for you: It may seem pretty obvious why this position could really get you turned on (hello, naked women all over you), this sensory overload may be just as hot as actual penetration. Plus, you’ll be satisfied by this expanded 69-inspired position that really takes a lot of the work out of sex for you. The views will be quite amazing.

Why it’s hot for her: “In this position, women have the option of giving or receiving pleasure and can switch back and forth, having multiple orgasms, “They can also get off giving oral while touching themselves or surrender when they’re receiving oral sex, so she gets to be both submissive and dominant.”


1. 3. The G-Spot Jiggy




What it is: You’re giving it to one woman from behind, while another woman is on her knees underneath, licking your balls and the other woman at the same time. If that sounds intense, that’s because it really, really is — in the best way possible.

Why it’s hot for you: With all of the different sensory experiences going on downtown for you — from your testicles to the base of your penis and your perineum — the feeling of thrusting while being orally stimulated may send you over the edge. “There’s also the possibility of anal stimulation via her fingers and tongue.”

Why it’s hot for her: “Women receive the benefit of oral clitoral stimulation while being penetrated,”. Some women experience ‘total’ orgasms while in this penetration, thanks to all of the tingly feelings inside their vagina and via the super-sensitive clit.


1. 4. The Double Penetration




What it is: You've likely watched this in porn clips a dozen times: You penetrate a woman (either anally or vaginally) while another guy is in the other one. You could also swap between DP and an Eiffel Tower — where one guy is going from behind and one is being given a blow job — for an added thrill.

Why it’s hot for you: “Many men have double penetration fantasies,” “It has to do with completely ‘filling a woman up’ while she surrenders to two men.” For you, you’ll experience additional stimulation of the other penis through the posterior vaginal wall, which will make you even closer to orgasm.

Why it’s hot for her: “Many women find anal penetration very pleasurable, especially coupled with vaginal penetration and potentially tripled with her or one of the guys clitorally stimulating her with their hand or sex toy,” It’ll feel very intense for her at first, but as she gets wetter, the experience will be easier and more erotic.


1. 5. The Strap-On




What it is: This could mean that one woman wears a strap-on and enters you or enters the other woman. It could also be translated with another dude, if you’re into that.

Why it’s hot for you: if you’re being penetrated, you’ll experience a type of orgasm that is different from your normal climaxes. “This gives guy the opportunity to stimulate their P-spot — or prostate — which can lead to a rippling orgasm through his body,” she says. Another fun fact? Having consistent P-spot orgasms can reduce your risk for prostate cancer.

Why it’s hot for her: If your partner wants a little more power play, a strap-on may be the thing that really sends her over the edge. “Strap ons allow women to become empowered by their ability to control penetration,” “This man lead her to feeling more confident sexually and increase the likelihood of initiating sex more in the future.” Many strap ons also come with embedded vibrators, meaning she can stimulate herself to orgasm while she’ penetrating him.


1. 6. The Magical O




What it is: You’re doing doggy style with one woman, while she’s making out with the other woman, kissing her breasts, touching her and more.

Why it’s hot for you: While you’re already being turned on by having rough sex from behind — that could be either vaginal or anal — you get the great view of girl-on-girl action. This is probably one of the most common male desires during a threesome and that visuals will really be what make it for you in the bedroom. It can also escalate to women performing oral sex on each other, which of course, you won’t mind at all.

Why it’s hot for her: For women, this might be a way to experience something with another woman and control how far she goes. Women are way more open to bisexual play than men, and it could make her more up for girl action in the future. “She has the opportunity to get plenty of oral and clitoral stimulation while getting penetrated,” “This tends to result in being not only more orgasmic, but multiply orgasmic!”



See the other "sex education 101" on my lovely friend's blog

-Rina's blog

-Arisa's blog

-Mio's blog








By tokyobutterfly, Apr 1 2017 01:14PM

Dear Kings and Princes ,


I recently stumbled upon an interesting article in Forbes magazine on toxic personality types. I'm fortunate enough not to meet too many of these character types but thought you might enjoy a good read and perhaps take inventory of the people you are surrounded by in order to better insulate yourself from unnecessary stress and drama.

I would love to hear your thoughts so please feel free to mail me or post a comment.


XOXO

Misa


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Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact they have on those around them, while others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people's buttons.

As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy--and they take a lot of each. Toxic people create unnecessary complexity, strife, and, worst of all, stress.

"People inspire you or they drain you--pick them wisely." --Hans F. Hansen

 

Recent research from Friedrich Schiller University in Germany shows just how serious the problem can be. They found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions--the same kind of exposure you get when dealing with toxic people--caused subjects' brains to have a massive stress response. Whether it's negativity, cruelty, the victim syndrome, or just plain craziness, toxic people drive your brain into a stressed-out state that should be avoided at all costs.

Studies have long shown that stress can have a lasting, negative impact on the brain. Exposure to even a few days of stress compromises the effectiveness of neurons in the hippocampus, an important brain area responsible for reasoning and memory. Weeks of stress cause reversible damage to brain cells, and months of stress can permanently destroy them. Toxic people don't just make you miserable--they're really hard on your brain.

The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we've found that 90 percent of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions in times of stress in order to remain calm and in control. One of their greatest gifts is the ability to identify toxic people and keep them at bay.

It's often said that you're the product of the five people you spend the most time with. If you allow even one of those five people to be toxic, you'll soon find out how capable he or she is of holding you back.

But you can't hope to distance yourself from toxic people until you first know who they are. The trick is to separate people who are annoying or simply difficult from those who are truly toxic. What follows are 10 types of toxic drainers that you should stay away from at all costs so that you don't become one yourself.


1. The Gossip

"Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, and small minds discuss people." --Eleanor Roosevelt

Gossipers derive pleasure from other people's misfortunes. It might be fun to peer into somebody else's personal or professional faux pas at first, but over time it gets tiring, makes you feel gross, and hurts other people. There are too many positives out there and too much to learn from interesting people to waste your time talking about the misfortunes of others.


2. The Temperamental

Some people have absolutely no control over their emotions. They will lash out at you and project their feelings onto you, all the while thinking that you're the one causing their malaise. Temperamental people are tough to dump from your life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for them. When push comes to shove, though, temperamental people will use you as their emotional toilet and should be avoided at all costs.


3. The Victim

Victims are tough to identify because you initially empathize with their problems. But as time passes, you begin to realize that their "time of need" is all the time. Victims actively push away any personal responsibility by making every speed bump they encounter into an uncrossable mountain. They don't see tough times as opportunities to learn and grow; instead, they see them as an out. There's an old saying: "Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional." It perfectly captures the toxicity of the victim, who chooses to suffer every time.


4. The Self-Absorbed

Self-absorbed people bring you down through the impassionate distance they maintain from other people. You can usually tell when you're hanging around self-absorbed people because you start to feel completely alone. This happens because, as far as they're concerned, there's no point in having a real connection between them and anyone else. You're merely a tool used to build their self-esteem.


5. The Envious

To envious people, the grass is always greener somewhere else. Even when something great happens to envious people, they don't derive any satisfaction from it. This is because they measure their fortune against the world's when they should be deriving their satisfaction from within. And let's face it, there's always someone out there who's doing better, if you look hard enough. Spending too much time around envious people is dangerous because they teach you to trivialize your own accomplishments.


6. The Manipulator

Manipulators suck time and energy out of your life under the façade of friendship. They can be tricky to deal with because they treat you like a friend. They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what you think is funny, but the difference is that they use this information as part of a hidden agenda. Manipulators always want something from you, and if you look back on your relationships with them, it's all take, take, take, with little or no giving. They'll do anything to win you over, just so they can work you over.


7. The Dementor

In J. K. Rowling's "Harry Potter" series, Dementors are evil creatures that suck people's souls out of their bodies, leaving them as mere shells of humans. Whenever a Dementor enters the room, it goes dark, people get cold, and they begin to recall their worst memories. Rowling said that she developed the concept for Dementors based on highly negative people--the kind of people who have the ability to walk into a room and instantly suck the life out of it.

Dementors suck the life out of the room by imposing their negativity and pessimism upon everyone they encounter. Their viewpoints are always glass-half-empty, and they can inject fear and concern into even the most benign situations. A Notre Dame University study found that students assigned to roommates who thought negatively were far more likely to develop negative thinking and even depression themselves.


8. The Twisted

There are certain toxic people who have bad intentions, deriving deep satisfaction from the pain and misery of others. They are either out to hurt you, to make you feel bad, or to get something from you; otherwise, they have no interest in you. The only good thing about this type is that you can spot their intentions quickly, which makes it that much easier to get them out of your life fast.


9. The Judgmental

Judgmental people are quick to tell you exactly what is and isn't cool. They have a way of taking the thing you're most passionate about and making you feel terrible for caring about it. Instead of appreciating and learning from people who are different from them, judgmental people look down on others. Judgmental people stifle your desire to be a passionate, expressive person, so you're best off cutting them out and being yourself. 


10. The Arrogant

Arrogant people are a waste of your time because they see everything you do as a personal challenge. Arrogance is false confidence, and it always masks major insecurities. A University of Akron study found that arrogance is correlated with a slew of problems in the workplace. Arrogant people tend to be lower performers, more disagreeable, and have more cognitive problems than the average person.


How to Protect Yourself Once You Spot 'Em

Toxic people drive you crazy because their behavior is so irrational. Make no mistake about it--their behavior truly goes against reason, so why do you allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and get sucked into the mix?

The more irrational and off base someone is, the easier it should be for you to remove yourself from his or her traps. Quit trying to beat them at their own game. Distance yourself from them emotionally, and approach your interactions with them like they're a science project (or you're their shrink, if you prefer that analogy). You don't need to respond to the emotional chaos--only the facts.

Maintaining an emotional distance requires awareness. You can't stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don't recognize when it's happening. Sometimes you'll find yourself in situations where you'll need to regroup and choose the best way forward. This is fine, and you shouldn't be afraid to buy yourself some time to do so.

Most people feel as though, because they work or live with someone, they have no way to control the chaos. This couldn't be further from the truth. Once you've identified a toxic person, you'll begin to find their behavior more predictable and easier to understand. This will equip you to think rationally about when and where you have to put up with them and when and where you don't. You can establish boundaries, but you'll have to do so consciously and proactively. If you let things happen naturally, you're bound to find yourself constantly embroiled in difficult conversations. If you set boundaries and decide when and where you'll engage a difficult person, you can control much of the chaos. The only trick is to stick to your guns and keep boundaries in place when such people try to cross them, which they will.